Fatal Mistakes That You Don't Want To Make With A Polish Woman
It is easy to make a mistake. After all you are probably working in a foreign culture. Things are different. Business customs differ and so do social customs.
So when you are approaching someone in a cross-culture situation you must be very careful to alter your approach lest you offend them.
In this page we give you some information about how to avoid the seven most common mistakes made.
The 7 Fatal Mistakes
1 -Failing To Consider Her Culture - Before you met her, she grew up in a society of Polish men who treated her in the Polish way. And now you are stepping into the scene and want to treat her your way. You must be careful to not mistakenly insult her.A Polish woman is expected to act like a pearl. She is supposed to be found. She is not supposed to go out and find a man. She is taught that her value goes down if she does not sit and wait for the right man to find her. She is a Polish Pearl. You will see that reflected in her attitude when she first meets you.
In her culture, until she gives permission, she is known as Pani or Miss. So if her name is Madga Kowalska, her acquaintances call her Pani Magda. Strangers call her Pani Kowalska. They call her Magda only after they ask and she gives permission. And people do not ask very quickly. They go through a long getting to know you period before they ask permission to go on a first name basis.
Call her Pani until you think it may be ok to say something like, Miss Kowalksa , may I call you Miss Magda? And tell her how you would like to be called. Let if flow from there.
2 -Don't Push And Do Not Rush. - She will be very slow to say yes. Typically even though she might be very interested in you, she will say that she is very busy at least five times. If you push her and do not go through the ritual, you will turn her cold. About the fifth time you ask, she will soften if she is interested. Even then you must proceed slowly.
3 - Don't Get Personal. - Don't ask her how old she is, what she weighs, how tall she is, her hair color or hair length. You will likely make her furious. Those are things that will come out with time. She wants to be important for who she is and not how long her hair is.
Alternatively, open up by telling her how you like to be called and ask her for her preference.
4 - Don't Avoid Sending Small Gifts - Polish men are shower Polish women lavishly with small gifts. They give a lot of small gifts all the time rather than occasional large gifts.
When a man goes to meet a woman for a date, he usually carries a single flower, a small box of candy or some other little gift like a candle. The cost is low but the value to the woman is high. If a man does not bring a gift, he really hurts himself. So you must be prepared to send little things like a single rose, a box of candy or a candle.
5 - Don't Miss Her Name day - Never miss a name day. Never, Never, Never. When you find out her first name, look at the name day calendar and check the date. If you don't understand it, get some help from the people who maintain the calendar. Look at a name day calendar at this link. www.masterpage.com.pl/imieniny.html
6 - Don't Look Like A Predator - The internet is cold, impersonal and full of thieves and fraudsters. Picture gatherers push the girls for nude photos. Everyone is rushing to go to bed with the women.
Slow down. Don't ask for any particular photos. Don't ask for nude or bathing suit shots. If she wants to send something, accept what she sends.
If you are going to offer to meet her, make it in a safe, public place. A restaurant, a hotel pub or other place with open space will generally be welcomed. Avoid discos, bars or crowed places that will make her feel cornered.
7 - Don't Act Like A Freeloader - Register and upgrade in a dating site. Upgrade to the maximum level, add your photos and use all the services that the dating site provides.
Registering makes it look like you are not hiding. Upgrading makes it look like you are not a free loader. Upgrading to the maximum level makes you look serious and committed.
Upgrading gives you immediate credibility.
Don't discount this advice. Polish woman are bombarded with offers from freeloaders. They are very sensitive to who is serious and who is not.
What You Should Do
1 -Learn About Her Culture - If you are really serious, you might even considering reading something about her culture. Show her that you are interested. Tell her that you are reading a particular book. Use it as a basis for conversational topics. This is a WINNING APPROACH!
In particular, first read the books on Polish culture and ways. You can find some good books about Poland at Travel And Culture Guides - Poland's Culture, Heritage and History and they include books that you should read.
2 - Be Ready For Her Name day - Read the information about gift giving at Practical Considerations About Sending Roses, Gift Baskets And Gifts To Poland
3 - Post In The Right Places -Put your listing in one of the two most popular meeting places for Poland. If you are not where the women are looking, you will not meet them.
Here our most often recommended meeting place. Polish Women
